Twelve Stepper:
The Venom Of Your Ilk
Joe Pinczewski-Lee
From: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
To: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
Sent: September 04, 2001 9:00 PM
Subject: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
Well, I guess I know or understand. 12 Step work isn't for everyone. But, the venom that appears in your page and others is astounding! The venom and the ignorance. I do agree that court's ought not be able to "sentence" someone to 12 Step work. As a devoted 12 Step person I don't want them! The first step says it all, "We admitted we were powerless over _________ -- that our lives had become unmanageable." It doesn't say, "I was sentenced to this program." Recovery, "is waking up sick and tired of waking up sick and tired." It can take many forms, AA or NA are simply two of them, there is individual counseling and group therapy, in almost countless forms. So, I agree a court really ought not be "sentencing" people to AA or AA-like programs. They just ought to sentence them!
Which leads to the "ignorance" charge. I have similar words from conservatives, like Dr. Laura or Rush Limbaugh, that, somehow, Recovery involves excusing the inexcusable. Sorry, Clint but if you, and others actually went to 12 step work, more or ever (Getting past that "Foolish God-thing"), rather than commenting on them, you'd find that the reality is different than the claim. 12 Step work requires acknowledging and accepting wrong-doing, Step One "We admitted we were powerless..." Step Five, "We admitted to God, ourselves, and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs ." Step Eight "Made a list of all persons we had harmed." Step Nine, "Made amends...". 12 Step work is penultimately about taking responsibility for our own actions and accepting the consequences.
You and your ilk confuse, willfully or ignorantly, 12 Step work with Oprah. We acknowledge what we did wrong and are willing to make amends. That amends could include jail time. Anyone in 12 Step work, well not anyone -- no group is so uniform, but most people in 12 Step work would agree with sentencing people to jail for DUI, or stealing money to pay for their addictions. We don't see our "Addiction" as an excuse, only as an explanation. It is something that you and many "critics" of 12 Step work seem to want to ignore. You create a "straw man" to knock down. We don't see being a compulsive gambler as an excuse for forgery or theft or embezzlement. Just own up to the fact that you don't accept a Higher Power. That's OK. 12 Step work won't work for you, that's OK. Just don't create straw man models to assault to justify your opposition. I tell all newcomers to our program, this is just one way to Recovery. If you're an atheist it probably isn't going to work for you. At least in my world of Recovery there are several paths to Recovery, several "roads to Rome." I don't know a lot of 12 Step people who would dispute this. I am simply amazed at the venom of those not in 12 Step work. I never speak as harshly of people your persuasion as you all seem to speak of us. Really, stop with the vendetta. You're an atheist and you don't need a "Higher Power." OK, just drop the bad attitude for those of us who choose a different path, in our lives and our Recovery.
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From: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
To: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
Subject: Re: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
Date: September 05, 2001 1:27 AM
But, the venom that appears in your page and others is astounding!
I cannot speak for what appears on other pages, but my "venom is directed against Alcoholics Anonymous, an institution that has done myself and many others great harm.
I reserve my fiercest wrath for those who know about Alcoholics Anonymous but not only continue to defend it, but will go so far as to vilify me for expressing the honest views of my heart and for telling the truth about my experience with the Program -- both inside, as a member, and outside, as one who has been threatened with physical violence for criticizing the Program.
I have studied this issue as much as anybody who has ever written on the subject. Nevertheless, in their cultic loyalty to AA, Twelve Steppers continue to call me "ignorant."
I will not stand still for this slander.
Instead, I will take every opportunity that such slander provides me with and respond to it by issuing forth even more of that fierce venom which rightly falls upon that most vile of institutions, Alcoholics Anonymous. This is why I generally drop whatever I'm doing when I receive a slanderous letter from an Alcoholics Anonymous member and avail myself of the opportunity to let our readers see the dark underbelly of the Twelve Step Program for themselves -- to see precisely what the Twelve Steps do to people who practice them.
Then, maybe a few more voices will rise up and speak out against our government's and society's penchant for not just endorsing AA but actually forcing people to attend AA meetings.
I do agree that court's ought not be able to "sentence" someone to 12 Step work.
So, tell me what you have done about it. Is what you've done limited to writing an e-mail to an atheist web site?
Have you brought a motion before your local Twelve Step body asking them to recommend that groups stop signing the courts' meeting attendance slips?
Have you suggested to your home group that they stop signing the meeting attendance forms?
Have you written to World Services explaining why you think they ought to recommend that groups stop signing the slips?
Have you ever told a newcomer that you're sorry, but you won't sign their form because Alcoholics Anonymous is a volunteer program, and the courts have no business sentencing people to AA meetings?
Tell me what you have done to reduce or eliminate this travesty, because, quite frankly, I don't believe you when you tell me that this is your opinion. I'd consider it profitable to bet that you've signed more than one meeting attendance verification slip within the past year.
And I promise you that you've spoken up and said absolutely zero in opposition to this scheme -- at least within the context of an AA setting. It's one thing to butter-up the moderator of an atheist forum and say this, but have you ever voiced your opposition to this scheme before your support group? while newcomers are in the room and while your sponsor is watching?
(And you don't need to place the word sentence in quotation marks, because they actually, literally, and physically sentence people to attend AA meetings and to pay for extended stays in inpatient Twelve Step "treatment" programs, run by AA members for the purpose of recruiting people into the local AA groups. I will enclose the word "treatment" with quotation marks because first, there's nothing to treat (addiction is not a disease), and secondly, religion does not constitute treatment (even if alcoholism were shown to be a disease).
The first step says it all, "We admitted we were powerless over _________ -- that our lives had become unmanageable."
Yes, I need go no further than this to see AA as the parasitic mind-trap that it is. AA is not about helping people get clean and sober, AA is about promoting AA. They do this by teaching people that they cannot get by without AA, creating a dependency upon AA so brutal that the victims think they'll die if they dare to leave the Program! Such coerciveness is unparalleled in modern cultic persuasion. The Krsnas and the Moonies could only wish to have the persuasive mind-control powers contained in the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Furthermore, AA is endorsed and lauded across the land by "experts" who ought to know better -- "experts" who, with just a cursory investigation of the facts, would see precisely what AA is up to. But no, these "experts" are monumentally lazy, having found a convenient way to let someone else do their dirty work for them. Who wants to deal with drunks and junkies anyway? Why bother? There's got to be any number of better things to do with our resources, but here's a group of people who actually want to do this work -- so we'll let them! Meanwhile, society gets what it pays for, in this respect: our laziness has come back to haunt us because those who so eagerly offered to do this dirty work have exploited their position of trust by building for themselves an empire of Twelve Step slaves.
Clint but if you, and others actually went to 12 step work, ... you'd find that the reality is different than the claim.
I don't know who "Clint" is.
So, then, is this another one of those, "There's nothing wrong with the Program itself, you're just not working the Program properly" ploys that we keep hearing from the many who insist upon defending the Program against her critics? Are you here saying it's impossible that the Program could be inherently and fundamentally flawed?
[Note to our readers: Here we have, once again, the very definition of fundamentalism: "There's nothing intrinsically wrong with ______ itself, it's the way that these false practitioners implement the methods of ______ which causes all these problems to come out of the ______ camp!"]
I dedicate so much space to commenting on the Twelve Step Programs precisely because the Steppers display so vividly the essentials of fundamentalism in their own defenses of the Program. For those Steppers who write to our Forum, defending the Program against our criticism is more important than even truth itself.
You and your ilk confuse, willfully or ignorantly, 12 Step work with "Oprah."
You need to justify this slam -- or else you need to apologize!
If you do not make a very good case for this comment, I expect to see a very humble apology from you for having written this to our Forum audience.
And if we don't see either, then we'll know precisely how dishonest you are. We'll know better than to take seriously anything else you've said here.
Anyone in 12 Step work, well not anyone -- no group is so uniform, but most people in 12 Step work would agree with sentencing people to jail for DUI, or stealing money to pay for their addictions. We don't see our "Addiction" as an excuse, only as an explanation. It is something that you and many "critics" of 12 Step work seem to want to ignore.
Aha! Caught with your hand right in the cookie jar!
There is nothing in the entire body of editorial of our entire web page (Cliff's editorials, Cliff's writings, the responses to the Letters, articles in Recovery Watch written by Cliff Walker) that expresses even a remote approximation of what you here attribute to me!
And you don't need to enclose the word critics with quotation marks because we are real, bona fide, actual critics of your game.
If you think other critics of the Twelve Step scam have said this (I won't call it "work" because it is not productive), then I suggest that you log onto their forums and tell them about it. But you logged onto our Forum and used the work "you" to describe who has done what you said. And we (I) haven't done this!
Quite the opposite! I have repeatedly urged that all crimes be dealt with sternly, that people ought not be allowed to get away with the "disease" of addiction as a mitigating factor in sentencing. I even said this publicly, in a piece I wrote that was published in the Portland Oregonian on January 17, 1997, called "Addiction doesn't excuse crime; accountability will help all recover."
In this piece, I said:
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"Addiction is no excuse for committing a crime, and we should stop allowing addiction to be a mitigating factor in sentencing. Addiction is a choice, not a disease." |
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So, there you have it! Our audience now knows five different things about you:
This is the kind of people who tell us that the Program is a good thing: they lie if they have to, if that's what it takes to convince the public that they've got something that we ought to continue funneling our resources into, that we ought to recommend to people in need. Alcoholics Anonymous is not satisfied with just being on top: they've got to have more. They are not content with dominating and monopolizing the addiction care industry or even controlling the public's understanding of the nature of addition. They're so utterly greedy that they've got to have more! They will even lie about others just to rub it in! They will tarnish the reputations of anybody who dares to even question the validity of our nation's support of their program.
I tell all newcomers to our program, this is just one way to Recovery. If you're an atheist it probably isn't going to work for you.
I've never heard either statement at any recovery meeting -- except when the statement came out of my mouth. And when it did, the people began to shift uncomfortably on their seats and clear their throats and the like, sending the signal to everybody in the room that the person speaking utters the Twelve Step equivalent of blasphemy.
I am simply amazed at the venom of those not in 12 Step work.
Like I said, the Twelve Step Program has done a great deal of harm, and it deserves to be criticized. The public deserves to know the truth about Alcoholics Anonymous because our courts sentence people to attend AA meetings, Our tax dollars and insurance base gets funneled into Twelve Step-based "treatment" programs run by AA members for the purpose of recruiting people into the local AA groups.
I never speak as harshly of people your persuasion as you all seem to speak of us.
You've spoken pretty harshly of me in this letter.
What have I done to deserve what you've dished out to me today? What do you think AA has done to deserve my criticism? What have you done to deserve my vitriol?
What did I do to you? Show me a lie that I have told! Find a single lie on this whole web site -- find a lie that I have told about Alcoholics Anonymous! I challenge you! You cannot do this! Just because you don't like what you hear does not justify you calling what I said falsehood.
Cliff Walker
Positive Atheism Magazine
Six years of service to
people with no reason to believe
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From: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
To: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
Sent: September 05, 2001 2:20 PM
Subject: RE: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
Harshly, no I don't and didn't call you a liar, sir ... As you have labeled me. Read my letter to you again, sir and you will not find me attacking you! I stand by venom! The person that can't seem to take criticism here, is you. I remonstrated against a charge you level and suggest that you be more "tolerant," as we tolerate those not in 12 Step work. Your screed in response was angry and defensive and personally abusive.
And I will stand by that. I never called you a liar, I suggested that you were ill-informed and wrong, not a liar. "Liars" know the truth and consciously distort it. I merely said, you were wrong. That doesn't make you a liar. If you say, "That building over there is the courthouse." And I say, "No, that building is the Post Office, the one next to it is the courthouse." does not make you a LIAR. It makes you mis-informed. You took my criticism as an attack on you personally and then concluded that I called you a liar. I never did any such thing. The word "liar" was used by you, to attack me. Abusive and defensive.
AA has done some good as has counseling of many forms. It is one > choice to Recovery. You see it as some dangerous mind-controlling cult, so it seems. I've never met anyone that felt "they'd die" if they left Program, not as you imply. Yes, they may realize leaving program leads to drinking, which will lead to their death, but I don't think I've met anyone that feels Program = Life ... We do think Program = Sobriety (for us) = Life, not dominated by alcohol, or sex, or drugs. We see Program as a means, not an end in itself.
"Quite the opposite! I have repeatedly urged that all crimes be dealt with sternly, that people ought not be allowed to get away with the "disease" of addition as a mitigating factor in sentencing. I even said this publicly, in a piece I wrote that was published in the Portland Oregonian on January 17, 1997, called "Addiction doesn't excuse crime; accountability will help all recover."
The very quote that sparked my letter. I know of no one in a 12 Step Program that would disagree with this statement. In fact, there are many that would laud it. So I am forced to conclude, that you feel differently about 12 Step work. You, I conclude, feel that we would excuse it on the basis of our "disease." Well, we wouldn't. Hence my discussion with you of your "straw man." 12 Step work is about accepting what we did, to ourselves and others, to include the consequences, financial, legal, or personal. We don't excuse others because they did it while drunk or because they are compulsive gamblers.
Which leads to my "Oprah" statement. From your venom and the thrust of your argument you imply that we, like Oprah and others, "Accept and understand" the victim's plight and so feel that "They have suffered enough." Nothing could be further from the truth. To the extent that we, in society, excuse someone's behavior on the basis of their disease (yes, I hold it is a disease) we do not further their Recovery. Instead, we "enable" them. 12 Step work does not do this. It is fundamentally about accepting the consequences of one's actions. If I drink and drive and get arrested no one I know is going to say to the Judge, "Oh your honor, he's an alcoholic. So, go light on him." They are much more likely to say, "Joe, we support you and we love you. If there is anything we can do to help call us, but you may be facing jail time. This is what comes of drinking and driving."
Personally, I think that you have a case of the A## with God. Ok, you don't see the need for him/her/it. Fine, In your anger and your arrogance, however, you pour vitriol on those who DO believe in God/Higher Power. The problem resides with you, not us. You won't find us talking about "Positive Atheism" as a cult, or damaging, or something to be watched, or opposed, or destroyed. We view "Positive Atheism" as your choice. Be so kind as to afford us the same luxury. We don't have to agree or like each other, merely co-exist.
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From: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
To: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
Subject: Re: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
Date: September 05, 2001 4:56 PM
I can take any valid criticism, a fact that is thoroughly documented on our Forum where many times I have changed my tune right on the spot when shown to be in error.
What I will not take are lies disguised as valid criticism.
If you wish to criticize me for doing something, you do well to first find out if that's something I even did.
Case in point:
And I will stand by that. I never called you a liar, I suggested that you were ill-informed and wrong, not a liar.
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You took my criticism as an attack on you personally and then concluded that I called you a liar.
You here criticize me for saying you called me a liar. I did no such thing. (And you never described precisely how I was ill-informed, you merely made the assertion and left it at that.)
I challenged you to find any lies or misstatements on my part, but I never said that you called me a liar. And I said this because you cannot find any lies or misstatements on my part. I spent years keeping my views to myself and checking further, lest I find myself making the grave and deadly mistake of dissuading people from AA on false pretenses. I had to know that I was right or I might have to hold myself accountable for inspiring people to avoid a program that might have saved their lives. So I kept silent for years and didn't start helping others until I was certain that I was not making a grave mistake. Only after I was sure of my facts did I begin to speak up -- only after I was dead sure that AA does much more harm than it will ever do good.
By 1998 I had studied every criticism of AA that I could get my hands on (about eight feet of bookshelf space) and had studied every work that is specifically a defense against AA's critics (excluding, of course, the generic pro-AA pap that comes off as if nobody smelled a rat). By then I had worked with thousands of people, both as an advocate for the Twelve Step Programs and later as a critic of them.
By then I had watched several thousand pairs of eyes light up upon their owners' learning that they didn't have their heads up their asses, that AA is, in fact, every bit as insidious as they suspected it was -- but you'd better not say anything lest you get thrown out of the rehab program and wind up back in prison or losing your kids or your career or, in two cases, your life because a liver transplant was conditioned on attending AA meetings (not on remaining abstinent, mind you, but on attending Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and getting those slips signed).
Shortly after the "Apeman" letter, I received one final telephone call. This one was brutal like none of the hundreds of other threatening and harassing calls had been. It scared me out of my wits and I still get chills just thinking about it. The caller warned me about my ongoing criticism of AA and said that I was personally responsible for the deaths of countless addicts and alcoholics.
After that, I had to stop doing the work I had been doing for almost eleven years -- almost half of my adult life at the time. I won't go back to it even though several highly respected people in this field have called me one of the most talented people they've known at convincing people that they could stop drinking and using drugs. I can't go back. If I lose my life, I can help nobody, but if I go ahead and stop helping people anyway, I at least stand a chance of remaining alive.
I challenge you to read "The Chocolate Easter Beast," my definitive description of the techniques of one "alternative" program, Rational Recovery. Tell me what it is about this message -- my message, the only message I told for over seven years -- that justifies the brutal opposition I have endured.
Why do so many Steppers lie both to me and about me for having said these things?
Why did my ex-sponsor tell scores of NA members that I had gone on television and said, "AA and NA ruin lives"? This fellow doesn't even watch television and never saw the program in question, but he was so sure of himself that he needed to warn the others to stay away from me (the "others" being people with years and years in the Program). But he never sat down and listened to what I had to say. Naturally he refused my offer to watch with him a tape of the show and see for ourselves what I did and did not say -- he was so sure that I was capable of nothing other than destructive behavior.
And true to the Twelve Step calling, he refused to retract his statement or to apologize to his fellow Steppers for lying to them -- or apologize to me for lying about me! The Twelve Step Programs are not there to help people stay clean and sober, they are there to promote the Twelve Step Programs. Anybody who criticizes the Program (anybody who has anything even remotely to do with someone who is even thought of as having criticized the Program) has endangered the lives of countless alcoholics and addicts. Never mind that the Program doesn't work! And if you dissuade people from the Program, those people will die (or so I'm told -- that has not been my experience, though).
Almost everybody who works in the "alternative" methods has read my piece, and those who have spoken to me about it tell me that it is the clearest statement of RR's techniques that they've ever read. I even hear this from people who disagree with RR's message, but they tell me that mine is the clearest, most useful statement of those methods, that someone can read this one pamphlet and walk away with a working knowledge of what RR says about how to quit an addiction.
This is precisely why I do not like to field questions or comments from Twelve-Steppers. With very few exceptions, their only goal has been to try to discredit me for the purpose of bolstering the image of AA.
Can you see what you've done, here? You tarnish my reputation just so you could shine the reputation of a third party -- an organization that is not even a person! You haven't even done this for your own benefit, but for the benefit of something that is not even you! not even human!
I don't like to discuss things with people who are so wholly given over in their loyalty to an idea that they'd harm other people just to stick up for an idea. This is the danger behind the motto "Principles before personalities."
The very quote that sparked my letter. I know of no one in a 12 Step Program that would disagree with this statement. In fact, there are many that would laud it.
If you will look at the context of that letter, comparing it with the letter of only a year or so earlier, you will see that I am criticizing the public's views here, which are a misunderstanding of an admittedly muddy position of AA's disease model. The public has taken AA's disease model to its logical absurdity by erecting a criminal justice system that will allow criminals to avoid the consequences of their crimes by diverting their sentences into "treatment."
This is shown by comparing this case with the earlier one, described in my piece, "Don't excuse breaking the law because gambler lacked self-control," which is linked directly from the letter in question. In it, I compare Commissioner Hugo's groveling hypocrisy with the highly laudable handling of Cook's crime. I wrote the second piece knowing that it would only last a single day in the newspaper, but that it would end up in the final state of becoming the second of a (then) two-part display on my web page. If you don't see the second letter as a continuation of the first, you have missed my most important reason for writing that letter.
Please also understand that some key components were removed from my original statement by the Oregonian staff. However, I still stand by the message as it reads: Here I denounce the "powerlessness" thinking of the popular addiction movement (that is, as it is understood by a large chunk of those working in the addiction treatment industry as well as most of the victims of the Twelve Step movement). Rather, I suggest, we need to start calling a theft a theft and hold people accountable for the crimes they commit (what Hugo tried to avoid and what Cook was not allowed to avoid).
Also removed from the original was my suggestion that addicted people start seeing themselves as capable of controlling their arm muscles rather than thinking of themselves as "powerless" in any way. I have watched thousands of people overcome their addictions by renouncing the "powerlessness" angle advocated both by the Twelve Step Programs.
The addicted person's mind wants to be powerless because this thinking increases the chances of remaining addicted. The addicted part of the mind doesn't know and doesn't care. Fortunately for us, the rational portion of the brain knows better and can make and keep a long-term commitment to remain abstinent for life. Also fortunate is the fact that the rational section of the brain is directly connected to the voluntary muscles, and thus is fully capable of overriding the spontaneous, compulsive urges of the midbrain's appetite center.
AA members, for the most part, have gone along with the popular understanding of "powerlessness" simply because AA members continue to staff these "treatment" clinics as well as visit them with their Hospitals and Institutions programs. Most of all, though, the Twelve Step Fellowships endorse this idea in their practice of signing the meeting attendance slips of those criminals who have skipped their responsibility and accountability by diverting their sentences into "treatment" programs. Thus, AA itself is as culpable as anybody in this matter.
But ultimately, it was AA's invention of the disease model which has caused this to even be a problem. The notion of treatment as an alternative to jail comes straight from AA Conference-Approved literature.
But I still don't see where you come off saying that I said what you insist that I said. You must do quite a dance of contrivance to wrest this message from my words.
From your venom and the thrust of your argument you imply that we, like Oprah and others, "Accept and understand" the victim's plight and so feel that "They have suffered enough." Nothing could be further from the truth.
I'm not sure I understand what an "Oprah" is. Is this from some television program? If so, I have not owned a television set since "Gilligan's Island," "Get Smart," and "Star Trek" were still being produced. I get my understanding of reality by making my own observations, and this is why I choose not to listen to the radio or watch television or subscribe to mainstream newspapers or magazines.
Besides, nowhere have I said what you here quote me as saying. Nowhere!
yes, I hold it is a disease
The only advantage I can see to holding it as a disease is to be able to soften the responsibility of one's drunken behavior. However, I have not heard any compelling reasons to believe that it is, in fact, a disease. The AMA recently voted (by a very slim margin) to pronounce it a disease, but the arguments in this discussion centered around allowing addiction "treatment" boondoggles to collect no small shaving from our health-care dollar.
If I drink and drive and get arrested no one I know is going to say to the Judge, "Oh your honor, he's an alcoholic. So, go light on him."
Perhaps in your ideal little world this ought never happen, but in the real world, it happens in courtrooms across the land every day that court is in session.
Personally, I think that you have a case of the A## with God.
Please use the English language when trying to communicate something to me. If you don't know how to spell a certain word, then find a suitable synonym. I don't know what your secret code means, here.
Fine, In your anger and your arrogance, however, you pour vitriol on those who do believe in God/Higher Power.
I pour out my vitriol on those who lie (like you have done here). If you had bothered to read even a small portion of what I have to say, you wouldn't have lied about me like this.
The problem resides with you, not us.
Oh, so you don't have a problem with people who lie about other people just to defend an idea? Oh, yeah, that's right! You not only don't have a problem with this behavior -- you not only laud this behavior, you practice it!
You won't find us talking about "Positive Atheism" as a cult, or damaging, or something to be watched, or opposed, or destroyed.
I don't know who this "us" is, but check out our Letters section and see what I put up with every day.
Be so kind as to afford us the same luxury. We don't have to agree or like each other, merely co-exist.
You definitely have not read very much of what I have to say -- if anything at all.
(Did you merely see the word atheism and then click on an e-mail link? Did you merely notice the existence of a web site critical of Alcoholics Anonymous and immediately draw conclusions prior to investigation?)
I openly and repeatedly state that AA deserves to exist. What I object to is AA's having monopolized the addiction treatment industry and having monopolized the public policy on how addiction and drug crimes are handled. Had AA remained in the church basements where it belongs, I would have nothing to say about it. I have made this very statement at least two dozen times in the past year alone. But since you show contempt prior to investigation, and I cannot expect you to be reasonable.
You still neither justified nor apologized for your initial statement:
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What did I do to justify your referring to me as an "ilk"?
What did I confuse with what? "Spreak Ingrish, Troop!"
Was it willful or ignorant? If you know so much about me that you can make pronouncements which contradict the general tenor of the entire body of my writing, you ought to at least be able to pronounce on that!
What is "12 Step work"? And what the fork is an "Oprah"?
In lieu of a response along those lines, have a nice life. As far as I can tell, it's the only one we get. I choose to live mine trying to dignify other people as much as possible, reserving my wrath and vitriol only for those who would willfully tarnish the reputation of a person they don't even know, a person who did them no harm and who has done no discernable wrong, simply so they could defend an otherwise defenseless idea. As a lay philosopher, I consider this the lowest form of misbehavior.
Of course, had you read very much of my body of writing at all, you would already know this.
Perhaps you do already know this. However, defending the idea of disease and powerlessness appears to be more important to some than even truth itself. It is certainly more important than the carefully preserved reputation of a critic of the Program. After all, "Principles Before Personalities!" -- or so they would have us believe!
Cliff Walker
Positive Atheism Magazine
Six years of service to
people with no reason to believe
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From: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
To: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
Sent: September 05, 2001 6:58 PM
Subject: RE: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
You're right ... have a good life. I am amazed and appalled at your anger. I haven't tarnished you. I've disagreed with you. So, if disagreement is unacceptable, so be it. In my 12 Step Program we say, "We confused any personal criticism as a personal attack..." I don't even consider this "personal criticism"; I don't know you and wouldn't know you if you were my next door neighbor. I have criticized what I thought to be incorrect statements. Apparently, that is "a personal attack" on you, to judge by the tone of your responses. And I pity you. Disagreement need not be so disliked. You seem very angry, let go of it, for your sake. A person does not have to agree with you to like, nor does disagreement imply dislike. It certainly does not require ad hominen attacks or accusations of lying."
Which leads me to another point. You were rather nasty in your response concerning "my" participation in the signing or refusal to sign verification papers. I believe that YOU, proceeded to just do what you castigate ME for, talking about me as if you know me. First you assume that I am in AA? Truth to tell, I am not. So, please don't go around "knowing" things about me, that you clearly do not know. Lastly, on this point. If a group doesn't sign the verification papers, wouldn't that say, legally, that the prisoner had NOT attended AA? And, if that is a condition of his/her parole or treatment wouldn't that non-attendance be contempt of court or cause for incarceration? In short, your proposal would me the jailing of an innocent person. They came and if I don't sign though they came, they run afoul of the judicial system. So, desist from the ad hominem attacks on me and re-think your so-called "solution." All your proposal does is get the sentencee into trouble, trouble they do not deserve. Law suits are acceptable. Or new laws that forbid the assignment of DUI's to AA. But your "solution" requires me to lie and to bring misery on someone undeserving of that misery. You espouse rationality, please exercise it.
By-the-way, when someone says another person is spreading lies, that makes them a "LIAR." Those who spread knowing falsehoods are "liars." Note in all your response you are the one accusing your opponents of lying, or therefore of being liars. Again, this is rationality at work. Please exercise more fully.
As to ill-informed, that was the point of the letter to inform you of how I perceived you to be "ill-informed." That seems to have escaped you. "12 Step Work" the work of being in a 12 Step program. So, that is what that phrase means.
As to your website, I was looking for "Recovery" links. I found a page full of nothing but Recovery links, yours being amongst them. I didn't realize that it WAS an atheist site until much later in my visit. I was drawn to the phrase "Recovery Watch." I was in agreement with the obvious point of your site, or that portion of it, that a forced assignment to AA or to AA-like programs is bad public policy. Now from YOUR viewpoint it is bad public policy in part because of the First Amendment and mostly because AA is Satan-Incarnate (I realize of course that is technically impossible for you, but certainly the emotional content of your responses clearly suggests you have a violent antipathy to 12 Step work).
I feel it bad public policy because it brings the wrong sort of person into AA or other 12 Step Programs. We meet "...to share our experience, strength and hope." not share stories about how the judge forced into this D%^$ room! People get better when they choose to, not when they are sentenced to. We merely dilute a useful program for no good purpose, plus can a judge abridge my right "of association" by FORCING a member upon me? AA is a private organization, how can a judge force me to have "Dan DUI" as a "member" if my group? "Dan's" presence could, in fact, damage my Recovery. What if "Dan" decides, "I think I'll just reveal all the members of my AA Group?" Dan was forced to come and may have no allegiance to us and a great deal of mis-placed anger directed at us. So, I would question the right of a judge to make Dan sit next to me (your point), but also the right of a judge to force me to set next to Dan. Which at some level a judge does when he sends "Dan" to my group.
And on that point I hope we might end our correspondence, that there is some small grain of agreement, it is wrong and counter-productive, to force people into Recovery programs. It is obvious that we can agree on little else. So, again, as you say "Have a good life."
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From: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
To: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
Subject: Re: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
Date: September 05, 2001 7:07 PM
I just don't understand why you feel you had to stoop to lying about me and then attacking your lies!? Why not simply do a little leg-work and find out what my position actually is. After all, I did not write to you, you wrote to me.
Why not, instead, admit that the Program did not get handed to us on a golden plate by an angel from God, that it has some serious flaws at its very core?
But to misrepresent an individual's sayings and position just to defend an idea? I don't get it. Why is this such a common practice amongst those who would try to defend the Twelve Step Program against my entirely legitimate criticism? This makes the whole operation look so desperate!
Christians accuse me of having a hard-on for them. No. If there's anybody that I'd prefer never hearing from again for as long as I live it's the Twelve Steppers. Just cruise through the chronological Index of our Letters section and search for "Alcoholics Anonymous" or "Twelve-Step" or "Twelve Step" and read these things. Almost every one of them does this -- often even after I've straightened them out on the matter! Why on Earth should I remain patient with a class of people who consistently treats me this way?
Why should I even start out being patient with you? You opened up your letter by likening me to a snake and then proceeded to lie about what I had said, slamming me again and again for doing things that I never did!
And now you nit-pick about me saying you're in AA. Is that all the goods you got on me? That's like me sniveling because you called me a Humanist. Well, not exactly, but close enough. We know what you're trying to say! From our perspective, it's all AA -- just with different names attached to distinguish between the different problems: it's the same Twelve Steps. As long as Lois's estate gets their three-quarters of a mil each year for sales of the Big Book, they don't care.
Out of one side of your mouth you rail on and on about how I don't know what I'm talking about -- but here you hold me accountable for knowing exactly which of the 23,517 different Twelve Step programs that people have formed over the past few decades. You said you work the Twelve Steps so naturally I may assume you work one of the "Anonymous" programs. I really don't care about the petty differences between the different variations of the same program because it's all the same problem from our perspective.
One more time: Please leave me alone and go bother somebody else. It's not my role to try to help you and I certainly could do without your "assistance."
Cliff Walker
Positive Atheism Magazine
Six years of service to
people with no reason to believe
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From: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
To: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
Sent: September 05, 2001 8:12 PM
Subject: RE: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
No problem there, "Adult Children don't take advice" and lastly, "We become that which we despise." I have found you to be petulant, angry, bitter, narrow-minded, and a boor. Very much what you, no doubt think of 12 Step people or the religious in general. I pity you and those like you. Your lives must be wormwood and gall each day. It has nothing do with your religion or lack thereof. And how do you expect to "prevail?" You don't argue, you harangue, you insult and when your opponent, someone that you "ought" to be "saving," doesn't capitulate you simply say "go away." You preach only to the "converted." If Jesus had done that, hey you're job would have been oh so much easier. You don't reach out, you strike out, at those you don't agree with, in angry and strident terms. I don't think that your "Atheism" is particularly positive. Instead it seems an angry outburst against a world that you can not accept or tolerate. It will be a pleasure to cease contact with you. Good Day.
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From: "Positive Atheism" <editor@positiveatheism.org>
To: "Pinczewski-Lee, Joe (LRC)"
Subject: Re: I'm not sure what your problem is ...
Date: September 05, 2001 8:36 PM
I have found you to be petulant, angry, bitter, narrow-minded, and a boor.
Wow, man, where'd you buy that thesaurus?
People who treat me the way you have treated me often come away with similar assessments of me. It's almost as if they do this deliberately so that they can later gloat over the fact that I responded to them the way anybody would when treated this way in public.
Yes, I am very narrow-minded when it comes to people lying to me.
And as I said in my first response, I do not tolerate people lying about me in an attempt to defend a mere idea.
And as I asked before, please leave me alone.
At one time I thought I might be mistaken in my assessment of Alcoholics Anonymous. After encountering you, I am just that much surer of my opinion that this Program has spawned a whole slew of little Programs that are alike in at least one way: they are very destructive to those people whom they victimize.
I am sorry for only one thing in this respect: I am sorry that I ever told anybody that the Program might be good for some people. As time goes by, I keep encountering opportunities to have that claim verified, but each opportunity only reinforces my ultimate assessment of what the Twelve Steps do to people who use them.
Cliff Walker
Positive Atheism Magazine
Six years of service to
people with no reason to believe
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